The Facebook Exchange That Sparked It All

The controversy began back in June during an online argument about the size of a local “No Kings” protest. The demonstrations were held nationwide in opposition to Trump’s administration and to coincide with a military parade marking the Army’s 250th anniversary.

During the exchange, Montoya told Norman resident Audra Abbott to “open a vein.” She went further, writing: “Go on, put a gun in your mouth and pull the trigger.” Screenshots of the interaction circulated widely after conservative activists resurfaced them later in the summer.

Abbott, stunned by the tone of the comments, told local outlet KOKH, “I can’t believe an elected official would talk like that online.”

A Public Apology — And Delayed Fallout

Montoya did attempt to walk her words back. On her official council Facebook page, she issued an apology acknowledging she had crossed a serious line.

“I was immediately disgusted with myself and knew I had crossed an unimaginable line. I sent a direct apology soon after,” she wrote. “To those I’ve hurt and are disappointed in me, I am truly sorry. I humbly ask your forgiveness.”

But the apology didn’t quiet the storm. For months, she remained in office, which left critics feeling city leaders were hoping the issue would blow over. It wasn’t until the story went viral that pressure became impossible to ignore.

The Resignation

When Montoya announced her resignation during the September 23 council meeting, her statement was brief but final:

“In various capacities, I have served this community since 2008, and I am ready to pursue other interests. Effective immediately, I am resigning as council member for Ward 3. Thank you, Ward 3. It’s been an honor to serve.”

Applause could be heard from attendees after her remarks.

Community Response and Calls for Reform

The controversy has triggered broader conversations in Norman about how council members conduct themselves online. Residents at the September meeting urged officials to adopt a code of conduct.

“Stop being the only city in the metro that doesn’t have one,” said resident Paul Wilson.

Others directed their frustration at Mayor Stephen Tyler Holman, accusing him of staying silent until the story gained national attention. “Sir, you were quiet about this entire situation and I think that just speaks to your integrity,” said resident Layne Brown.

What’s Next for Norman’s Ward 3?

Montoya’s term was originally set to run until 2027, but her resignation leaves the seat vacant. The city has opened applications for candidates interested in filling the role, with submissions due by early October.

For Norman, the saga has become more than just the story of one councilwoman’s downfall. It has sparked a debate about accountability, online behavior, and the standards local leaders should be held to — lessons that extend far beyond a Facebook comment thread.